I recently took a break from social media. I took this break because I realized that social media was STEALING MY JOY! It was a little hard, and I admit I still clicked those small little squares on my phone daily only to be reminded that I was no longer logged in. It was quite disappointing to realize every time I had my phone in my hand I would automatically click a social media app. I did it unconsciously. That’s when I knew it had become a habit. I bad habit that I didn’t want to have.
I would like to think that I have a strong will-power, so this was a challenge. The more I scrolled, the more anxious I became. The feelings of disagreement over political posts, the feelings of envy of vacation pictures, the feelings of inadequacy upon viewing other wives and mothers, the list goes on. I started to doubt myself. I started to compare. All the while knowing that most people put their best face forward, ESPECIALLY on social media.
People are not posting pictures of their dirty laundry piled up. They are not posting pictures of when their toddler rubs butter all over the kitchen floor (on second thought some people may post this for a good laugh). For the most part, people want you to see them achieve. Of course we are going to show off the best of ourselves, but social media gives a platform where we can show the best of ourselves a little too much. We have all become little Nellie Olsons! We love bragging on social media. Whether we truly know that we do it, WE DO! That alone was a big epiphany for me, because I don’t like attention. Attention has always made me feel uncomfortable. So bragging was something that I thought I didn’t do. But guess what, I did.
On social media, I became a fake version of myself. When I realized this, I took a break from posting; however, I STILL did some scrolling. That’s when it really became apparent how fake most people were. Even the people I knew well, would in privacy tell me one thing small, but on social media completely applaud it and blow it entirely out of the water. IT WAS FAKE! These people I knew very well, and they were not fake at all in person, but their social media profiles painted a very perfect picture of their very imperfect lives. So that was it, I couldn’t take it any longer, DEACTIVATE!!
Deep breath in, exhale, what a blissful time it has been! Not only has it been blissful, but I have more time, way more time. I have tackled projects that I had been putting off because I “didn’t have enough time.” I was living more in the moment. I truly concentrated on my children’s stories, on the games they wanted to play, on the jokes they told. There was no phone in my hand! I brainstormed more. I started writing again. That anxiety from comparing was GONE. Totally gone! I didn’t care what anyone was doing, except for the ones living in my home with me.
I started to see the beauty in the world, because I no longer checked my social media while on the park bench at the park. Instead, I felt the breeze, I smelled the honeysuckle, I watched the geese, and it was AMAZING. It’s like waking up. Waking up from a social media coma, coming back to reality where I realized my life is good, my life is REALLY good!
Finally free of distraction, I started to live my life more INTENTIONALLY! Living intentionally is what makes us put down our phone, stop comparing, turn off the TV and LIVE in the MOMENTS THAT MATTER. It has made me so much more grateful, with less stress and no anxiety. I wake up happy, and go to bed happy. Intentional living is loving the life you have, or taking all the steps in the right directions towards a life you want. Grab my Free Guide 5 Days to Living a More Intentional Life.
Tips on How to Take a Social Media Break
- Log out of EVERY social media account.
- Delete the apps from your phone and tablets.
- Go outside. Go for walks. Plan outdoor adventures.
- Hang out with OFFLINE people, you know the people who don’t check their phone constantly.
- Enjoy REAL life!
Have you taken break from social media?